How To Woo Your Crush

do you have a crush...?

What is a crush?

A crush is having a feeling of love towards someone you don't actually know well or someone way out of your league. Well crush is a normal thing and most of us have it but we are either denying it or keeping it in check. There are many ways to develop a crush, and most popular ways we develop a crush is at a working place, church, school, home and groups.

1. Crush at the place of work

If you check your schedule properly, you'll realized that you spend more time at work than you do at home. If you remove the time you use for sleeping which is between 6 to 8 hours, then what remain in your time at home is very little and out of this little time, so many other things will occupy you and there wont be time for crushing.

2. Crush at home

You can develop crush home, for your neighbour, your friends, someone in your area and your acquaintance. Crush is very possible at home, if you see someone on a daily basis around your home or in your area and you always bump into each other every now and then - and if you like what you see, then there is possibility of you developing a crush for that person.

3. Crush at church

You can develop crush at your church, many people are always well dressed on Sundays and when see them in church, you will always admire them. As a matter of fact, Sunday use to be a dressed down day for many folks and this why as a young boy that grew up in a very local area, we have made it a rule not to toast girls on a Sunday. This is because many of us had fell victim to girls that will dress well on Sundays and on Monday, if you see them you wont want to greet them. So crush can develop at church if you see someone on the average of 48 times in a year and that's even if you only go to church on Sundays. Then you will definitely develop a crush for that person you always checked out./

4. Crush at school

If you are in school, crush is very high there. In fact that's where most crushes happened. You cant deny that you don't have a crush while in school. Even if you are spirit filled as many claimed - you will have a crush in your fellowship or someone is crushing on you. Most times we referred to it as "idol in our heart" but believe me, one way or the other, we've all had a crush or crushes in our lives.

5. Crush in a group

Crush is a product of familiarity and association, this is why crush is very rampant in groups and most times that's where most people find their partners.

Well having a crush is not a crime as some people see it but in my opinion, crush is a good thing for our feeling. Crush could be either lust or love, this depend mostly on who is having it and for whom its targeted at. Anyhow you see a crush, it is your opinion that matter not mine and this opinion is what will guide you on what to do. But we should be reminded that some of us are married today due to a similar feeling of crush we have on our spouses. If you don't have a hit on someone, you cant date that person and cant marry such person, except you were match-made.

Crush is not gender based or biased. It could happen to anyone, both male and female, and there is no law that says its only men that should be one to woo women. It could be done by anyone who has the highest crush- male or female. Any which way, someone has to woo someone, so how do go about the wooing of your crush..?

crush is someone that occupy your mind

1. Find out first what exactly you are attracted to in your crush. If its money, mode of dressing or affluence. you are not right with all those, they are things of insignificance that can changed in a moment. The person may lose his or her money, when money disappeared then don't expect him to dress well again and affluence too will disappear because your circle of friends will changed when you're broke. Crush is something you need to define well, don't fall for material things but make sure your crush on someone has to do with his or her personality

2. Find out what your crush like- find out where he or she likes to go, who are their friends, what is their background, where he or she lives and all the likes and dislikes.

3. Make yourself known to your crush. Don't crush in secret for long or it will turn into infatuation and obsession. Start by greeting and sharing pleasantries with your crush. If you greet them, make sure they answer and that's very important because it will registered you in their subconsciousness. They may not know you by name at first but make sure your face is registered on their mind.

4. After greeting for a while, upgrade to asking about their family and their day. Initiate short conversations with your crush and make sure you don't overdo it - be sensitive. Some of your crush might not even like your face at first, make sure they do. Always smile and make sure you look your before approaching them.

5. From short conversations, graduate into jokes and make your crush smile. If you're a man, your best tactic is to always have a great sense of humour, women like those who make them smile and they also like those who compliment their looks. Tell you crush " you look perfect in that dress'' even though you might need to lie sometimes, please it well because there likes your success to woo your crush. Just say something good to your crush that will get you more attention from them.

6. Invite your crush out for a drink or volunteer to escort them on some errand or shopping, be ready to carry bags and if you're a man, prepare to spend money too. Nothing is free - even in Freetown

7. After few escorts, ask your crush out on a proper date but don't expect them to accept, they don't accept on the first request. Hope you understand that by now, you must have gotten their number, but not directly; just let a friend help you or through another means. When your crush turned you down, don't feel bad but smile and say "i understand" but don't miss the opportunity to surprise him or her by adding "i will call you" before you depart.

Your crush may at this moment offer to give you the number, just smile and tell them you have it, you have scored a vital point there. if your crush refused to volunteer to give you the number, don't ask for it and make sure you call as you promised. That will surprise your crush and that's where your conversation will start from when next you meet...don't tell her or him where and how you got the number over the phone as they will ask you. Keep them in suspense and make their heart drawn more to you.

8. Ask your crush out again after an interval of one or two weeks. This time am sure your crush will accept or give an alternative date and don't show too much excitement, just act normal and am sure that will impress them more.

don't fail to impress your crush on your first date

9. On the day of your date, don't dress to kill please. Just be simply dressed and it doesn't matter whether you're a man or a woman - you are the one paying for that outing. don' fail to load your card or your pocket. Make the outing an interesting one with lots of jokes and be nicer than necessary. Everything you do during this outing will be noticed and later be replayed by your crush in their quiet moment of decision. So make sure you left an indelible mark on your crush. Don't over impress him or her and don't fail to impress too. Be moderate and modest.

10. Lastly, don't fail to hit the nail on the head. What do you want from your crush.? Be sure you know it before you go through all the stress we've being discussing since because at the end - you will be asked - what exactly do you want....? Make sure you're ready.