10 Things That Supersede Love In A Relationship Or Marriage.

Love is believed to be the basis and an integral part of any marriage, but it will shock you to know there are many things that are more important than love in marriage. In the journey of marriage, love is just a connector and part of the foundation, but to be able to build a formidable marriage then there are vital things to consider.

1. Open Mindedness

Being open minded in marriage is very important to the sustainability of the marriage. This is an act of being open to new ideas, new ways of living, new experiences, new friendship, new environment etc. The two people in marriage are still strangers to each other no matter how loving their courtship was. Those years of courtship cant guaranteed you know your partner well as some may pretend throughout the courtship stage. This is why you need to have an open mind to accommodate whatever changes that surface after marriage. You have to zero your mind to take things as they unfold. Because marriage is full of surprises, be ready for the reality.

2. Believe

You need to have a believing heart and this is very essential to your success in marriage. Believe that you will survive the marriage and that every problem you may encounter will definitely have a solution. Believing is just a way of being positive. Your power of positive thinking will help you solve many problems. Don't think because your partner is a pastor or someone with high spiritual standing, therefore he cant misbehave or disappoint you. No human being is predictable when it comes to how they behave or what they can or cannot do in marriage. Your level of believe will make you a victor and not a victim of marriage.

3. Patience

Patience is the mother of all character. patience is more valuable than love in marriage - most places or situations where love failed, patience had succeeded. When you're armed with patience, you can withstand any injustice, any ill-treatment, any insult and any unpalatable experiences. Believe me - that's what marriage is all about. patience has the ability to solve any kind of problem. patience is a master builder of homes and it will make every marriage work itself out.

4. Long-suffering

Long -Suffering is self explanatory. You must be able to be long-suffering in order to enjoy your marriage. Many unforeseen circumstances will arise during marriage and some of these circumstances wont book an appointment with you before they show their face. Some of this situations don't even make sense sometime but your ability to endure in meekness will work things out for you. Many afflictions will arise in marriage, added to this are never ending victimization, persecutions and wrong accusation but all you need is to be long suffering and you will smile at last.

5. Loyalty And Devotion

Love is not the same as loyalty. If it were the same then no man would marry two wives or dates another woman apart from his wife, same thing apply to women. Loyalty is a rare trait in marriage. When you have money flowing in a marriage, loyalty is easy - you will hear a lots of " honey, sweetie, dear and angel". but immediately money fades then the names will become something else. the dance will become a solo dance and many things will become lopsided. No amount of love can take care of this except loyalty. Those who are loyal doesn't attach any reason to it. they are just loyal and devoted with no string is attached.

6. Communication

communication supersede love in marriage. How can marriage work without communication?. One of the attributes of good marriage is communication. You shouldn't assume in marriage, don't think you know your partner too well. You have to communicate, ask questions, discuss about the situation and give your partner room to express his or her mind. Don't think it doesn't matter at all, it does matter and you will be better off to talk about that issue than to think you know what's going on. Don't rely on body language to form your opinion, make room for dialogue. out of every discussion will come the secret to solve every problem.

7. Understanding

Understanding is not the same as knowledge. you may have knowledge and lack understanding. not everyone that went to school is educated. Having understanding will enable you to apply your knowledge appropriately in marriage. You cant afford to lack understanding - how are you going to cope?. Many situation require your understanding and accurate judgement, if you lack that then, your marriage might ship wrecked soon. you need understanding with your partners, in-law, friends, children, associates - even with yourself - if you don't understand yourself, how can you understand others?.

8. Maturity

if you're not mature, they said you shouldn't marry, The reason is simple - maturity is the unit by which marriage is measured. Maturity is the ability to take the right decision at the right time. Knowing when to speak your mind and when to mind your speech. Maturity is when you always find a reason for your partner's actions, or anyone else's. Maturity is the yardstick for going into marriage. When you are not caught off guard in any situation, they say you're matured. knowing your onions and how to peel it is called maturity and that's all that matters in marriage

9. Forgiveness

Somebody said - This is not heaven, so don't expect it to be - all they were saying is that life is full of shit, and you shouldn't expect anything less. Therefore, don't think your partner is a saint or an angel and they wont offend you or hurt you. The moment you come to term with that fact, then to forgive wont be hard for you. Forgiveness is key in every marriage because that's the balm that heal all wounds. In marriage, you'll get wounded more than a soldier on the war front but your ability to forgive fast will safe your marriage and also safe you from untimely death, bitterness of heart affect your vital organs and it can lead to cancer, because it's cantankerous and dangerous to our health. Forgiveness supersede love as there is no love without forgiveness

10. Giving

Giving is the bedrock of every marriage - giving is what precede every pronouncement of love and giving is what establish love right from the time of dating, up to the courtship stage and now in marriage It plays an enormous role. The moment giving stopped, marriage will collapse, love will die a natural death and loyalty will become shaky, understanding will seize, communication will reduced, patience and long suffering will vanished, maturity will disappear, and forgiveness will become impossible while an open mind will become shut. Giving is the most valuable in every relationship . Our lives is built on giving, our home is built on giving, and every of our association is base on giving. we give more than money in marriage - we give respect, we give our body, we give our time, we give our entirety, Giving is the most essential attributes of love.

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